Thanks to all of you who offered sympathy and kind words in response to my last post. I can’t tell you how touched I am to receive good wishes from so many that I’ve never even met. Knitters are the best!
Here are some of the helpful suggestions and how I’m applying them:
1. Accentuate the positive: I have been quite successful finding silver linings–the two men who died are at peace and will never feel pain or anxiety again; my son has decided that he’ll go to college next year instead of taking a year off to be a ski bum.
2. Sleep, eat whatever you want, and watch the birds: Done. I’ve been taking naps, eating chocolate (five pounds, according to my bathroom scale), and I’ve been watching the birds and squirrels outside my office window (instead of working).
3. Go for a walk: I did that today and enjoyed the balmy 45-degree sunshine. Here’s a photo of the scenery from a nearby park. (This also gives me another excuse to take another nap.)
4. Get antidepressants and therapy: In progress.
5. Read a book or watch a favorite TV show or movie: I started Joy of Man’s Desiring by Jean Giono, which is a magical tail of how a couple in provincial France rediscover happiness, “the passion for the impractical, the useless.”
6. Sit in a comfy chair with a dog or cat: Done. I took dinner to my parents last night and spent some time on the couch with their cat.
7. Enjoy the sunshine: Done. The last couple of days have been gloriously sunny.
8. Breathe: I’m working on it — it’s surprising how often I forget to do this.
9. Have a glass of whiskey: Turns out, holiday guests drank all our whiskey so I substituted a stiff martini of my favorite atrisan gin from Dancing Pines Distillery.
10. Sort through things and reorganize: I finally unpacked my suitcase and I’m in the process of cleaning my desk.
11. Send a note of encouragement to someone who needs it: Instead of sending a note, I hand-delivered a pot of homemade soup to my friend who lost her husband.
12. Scratch a dog’s ears or cuddle a baby: Done. The friend I took the soup to has a dog and was in charge of her 5-month-old grandson when I arrived.
13. Be patient: This is the most difficult, especially as I see deadline approach and my inbox fill up.
In summary, I think I’m doing pretty well and I look forward to finding focus again.
Nobody mentioned it, but there’s nothing like fresh flowers to make one sigh with pleasure–here’s the arrangement that a dear friend sent to me: